Are Women Basically Mothers at Heart?

And now I find myself realizing that I’ve been taking being a man for granted more than I thought. Still, I thank God very much, for I have found more hope in this chance to learn more yet again!

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Women today are confused about who they are called to be. If we feel called to be full-time mothers, society seems to dismiss us as vintage models, out of step with the modern feminist agenda. I know I often felt embarrassed because I did not have a real job as I mothered nine kids.

Edith Stein (St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross) had a lot to say about the nature of women. She was a Jewish German philosopher who converted to Catholicism, became a Discalced Carmelite nun, and died in the gas chambers of Auschwitz.

Initially, she struggled intellectually with the whole idea that women were different than men. In the end, instead of denying her gender, she looked to her body as the image of her soul. Katharina Westerhorstmann discusses Stein’s view of women in On the Nature and Vocation of Women: Edith Stein’s Concept against the Background of a Radically…

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2 thoughts on “Are Women Basically Mothers at Heart?

  1. I think there’s wisdom in noticing that women aren’t men, and that this is okay.

    About what women, and men, are “at heart?” That’s where it gets interesting: my opinion.

    I’ll start with humans in general: men and women, boys and girls, everyone.

    By definition, we’re all “human at heart.” I’m human, so I share some qualities with other humans – but not with geraniums or squirrels. I also share some qualities with other humans **and** squirrels, but not with geraniums. All three sorts of creatures are living, and that’s getting into another topic.

    I’m a man, another quality I share with about half of all humanity. I’m a married man: husband, father, and now grandfather. Certainly not a perfect example. but “at heart” I am a father – – – and the rest.

    Growing up when I did, in the Sixties, helped me realize that being a man didn’t necessarily involve getting married, having a ‘successful’ career and a house in the suburbs. Not that there’s anything wrong with that sort of life, which gets me back to being a [whatever] at heart.

    Being married – a husband, father and all – makes sense for me. I’ve occasionally daydreamed about other possibilities, but not often and not for long. I’d make a profoundly poor monk, for example. 😉

    But I won’t say that all men are fathers at heart. As a Catholic, I see at least three or four – depending on how they’re divvied up – “vocations:” single, married, religious (monks and nuns, priests).

    My “vocation” in that sense is being married. It’s right for me, but would not be for others. Men aren’t all alike – and that gets me back to the human-squirrel-geranium thing.

    As I see it, women aren’t all alike either. As humans, we share some qualities, but each of us is an individual.

    About women and being mothers, I’ve seen a growing recognition that being a mother can be okay. That makes sense to me. And it’s probably part of a correct of some good-ideas-gone-bad, including the warped views of women in American society before the Sixties. And that’s yet another topic.

    1. Reading this, I find myself thinking about how all those people with warped views are just like you and me, people who don’t take disillusionment easy, but were never made for evil in the first place. I’m sure that the women out there who look down on motherhood are all people trying to earn more respect for women, even if their approach towards it isn’t really the best, so I guess what’s more important is that we show that we understand where they’re coming from as much as we try to show them how we can all do better. Perhaps there are times when it will come to heated discussions and even painful divisions, too, like any other war out there, especially since our quest towards betterment is also a war against the Devil. The truth can hurt, certainly, but it is still meant to set us free. With that, I guess we gotta have more faith and obedience in the Truth Himself, then. Like, really, He certainly got people hurting and freed without even swinging a sword around when He lived here on earth! And hey, if we know everything already, then there wouldn’t be any need for teaching and learning, yeah? ^w^

      Also, speaking of disillusionment, the word doesn’t sound like something that’s meant to be negative in the first place, don’t you think? The way we treat the word “disillusionment” now is like us replacing “charity” with “unselfishness,” I think. And yes, I have recently read The Screwtape Letters, bless my late paternal grandmother’s soul.

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